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Who’s Watching?

There’s a lot of talk about shame connected with the art and the act of masturbation; sometimes it’s overt, immediate and very hard to deal with because it comes from outside yourself, but sometimes you don’t understand the effects until you look back on it from a position of much greater experience, when you’re able to recognize your own participation. When I was a kid, I didn’t have any sense of shame regarding self-pleasure; my parents weren’t especially religious, and in spite of being raised in an at least nominally Catholic environment, I didn’t hear anything much about it. On the few occasions I attended confession, it didn’t even occur to me to mention how much I enjoyed my time in the bathroom with mom’s hand soap. Masturbation was a secret thing, but not because it was shameful or embarrassing – more because it was a body function, private like the rest of them. I had, as I think everyone has, a couple of instances of getting walked in on by family members, but it was the same reaction, for me anyway, as I would have had if the bathroom door had opened while I was on the toilet.

It took accession to adulthood for me to find out what it meant to be embarrassed about masturbating, and it arrived in a most unexpected way.

Masturbating With The Lux Prostate Stimulator – LX3

Sexual orientation does not affect where our nerve endings are. That it feels good to stimulate the prostrate is not the exclusive domain of gay men. And because of the huge stigma for men and their asses, straight guys have overlooked an entire landscape of blissful sensation. If you can shed the fear and shame and just relax, you can experience one of the most incredible and unexpected forms of masturbation available to you.

I like to think that the more open i am to experience, the more powerful and empathetic I am — and that’s hot. If you’re afraid to put this thing in your ass, you definitely shouldn’t ask to put your thing in someone else’s.

Masturbating With The Vibratex (Hitachi) Magic Wand

The Magic Wand is the most popular sex toy on the market, and has been for decades. Time magazine recently listed the Wand among the top 10 most influential gadgets of all time, next to the iPhone and the Walkman. The distinction is well deserved according to throngs of devoted magic wand fans, who range from seasoned sex workers to vanilla virgins. All kinds of masturbators – even those who are usually underwhelmed by vibrators – bond over their addiction to this impressive piece of machinery.


I started this blog because there just really isn’t a good, honest dialog and resource out there for male masturbation. I mean, where IS the hitachi wand for men?! All of the reviews we read feel like advertorials that aren’t in any way convincing that the toy was somehow ‘Better Than The Hand.’ More importantly, reviews are generally technical but reveal nothing about the experience the toy offers and the various creative ways a toy can be used. After trying a couple of the ‘best selling’ and ‘top rated’ products, I was sorely (in some cases, literally) disappointed; besides, men (particularly straight men) just don’t share stories about masturbation and toys the way women do, and someone’s got to be the font of wisdom for the curious but leaderless masses. So I gathered a couple of my friends who are both avid, unabashed masturbators as well as articulate writers, and we decided it was time to up-and-masturbate and tell everyone else about our experiences.

All In Blowjob Stroker: Better Than A Fleshlight?

Despite its simple design, this has become my go-to toy for a variety of reasons. First, it’s clear so I don’t have the sense that my cock is out of sight and somehow detached. Second, it has nice internal textures but remains silky smooth, providing just the right balance of friction and glide. The best thing, however, is that its open end allows you to stroke all the way through.